Three Important Traits Kids Develop With Play

Play is an important part in the nurturing of kids. It helps all round development in kids. Even if families are different the parenting values they believe in are more or less the same. Most of us want to bring up responsible kids. We were brought up to be responsible, and we want successive generations to be responsible. In a society, people have to be cohesive for a forward movement collectively.

Baby plays in the garden by simpleinsomnia

As family sizes shrink and family types morph, we are marching towards a society where digital devices are replacing many of the functions which involved family members. In earlier times, babies were always in the care of a family member be it a close relative or a far one. Nowadays with rapidly changing families and mores, babies could be looked after within nuclear families, in day care systems, in single parent plus grand parent homes and even single grand-parent homes. Kids did not grow up playing video games and bonding with friends over virtual pet games. They played on porches, in kitchens, back yards, quiet streets, inside parks and even the woods. But play they did. In all kinds of weather. That taught kids and shaped their character.

Here are three important traits kids develop with play:

1. Patience
Play gets kids to be patient. They learn this while building things or playing board games or putting together something. Delayed gratification is good for kids. It teaches them to stay the course even if it takes time. Research has proved they become more successful at a later age. This trait always helps them in their relationships too.

2. Waiting for your turn
This is a super important trait in large groups. If this does not happen, groups are hard to handle. If kids learn to wait for their turn, they also learn not to try and get things out of turn. Board games are a great example of simple play which teaches kids to wait for their turn. However much they itch to roll the dice again, they know they have to wait.

3. Cooperation
What's any group be it a family, friends circle, team, colleagues without cooperation? A group which co-operates survives well and flourishes. Ants are the best examples in nature. They can carry away a bigger creature with team work. The entire process of kids gathering to play, builds cooperation. They play together, build together, dismantle together and even clear up together. When groups are cooperative, in fighting is less and things move efficiently. In fact even eating together is a good way to build cooperation!

Whatever the unit that a child grows up and participates in, these three traits will always help the child stay the course. It reduces the angst children face as they grow up, because these traits help them cope with all kinds of situations through their lives. We must never forget that it all started with play.

The Use of Games in Handling Grief

Grief is one of the hardest emotions to handle, and family support helps immensely in healing. There are many therapies suggested to deal with grief, but sometimes that's not enough and intervention is required. 

Gamer Kid by Laurent Dussimon

Handling Grief
Kids process grief differently. Encouraging them to talk about their loss is important. The loss of a parent, sibling or just anyone they were close to can consume the child. If the adult caring for the child can help, nothing can be better to reduce grief. Here are a few activities too which might help. 

I view games as the cultural competency of the 21st century - so says Kelli Dunlap, a psychologist and a game designer. For psychologists like her games and talking about games is a great way to start a conversation and build trust with the kids they are helping. She uses video games to reach kids who have problems and need psychological help. A large chunk of the population plays video games and talking about games/gaming is a good way to break the ice with kids. 

Old or young, there are many who find succor in just playing video games, be it old favorites or new ones, by just getting lost in a world which they feel reflects their state of mind. Video games can help become a conversation starter as well as the environment when people start the process of healing.

Looking Back, Talking and Learning

New years come, and new years go. That's the nature of time - to march on, waiting for none. We have built clocks and kept time, but humans have not understood time. At least understood it enough to explain to others. There were ancients it's said who knew, and I'm sure there are many in the world who comprehend even today, but as ordinary mortals, we just keep pace with time for as long as possible.

'What then is time? Provided that no one asks me, I know. If I want to explain it to an inquirer, I do not know.’ Saint Augustine, Confessions (397-400 AD)

Now that we have rung in 2017, let's pause and look back. At the year gone by, the good things we have done and at the things we should have done better.

la pioggia by amira_a

Better Parenting

As a parent, it's wise to spend more time with the kids. Playing together and listening to what they have to say improves the bonding between parents and kids. Occasionally we might have to participate in things they enjoy, which we might not enjoy very much, primarily because we need to find common ground. The kids love dragon games, but the parents might not be fond of dragons. The trick is to do things with kids which involve dragons. Perhaps you could find out fun things about dragons to share with them. Try some dragon crafts. Or dragon food for a change. 

Learning from the Year Gone By

Without our realizing it, the kids were spending way too much time on digital devices. We had kept tabs, but when we got a little busy, they found their own way to fill up their time. This year we'll restructure our day to ensure that the kids have more time where one of us can engage them in some activity or drop them to a play date at least. 

Communication

Children get their language skills from parents and caretakers who talk to them. They learn to talk by imitating the sounds we make. At all times, even when tempers are high, the lines of communication must be kept open. They must understand that no fight or argument is worth closing communications with the parents. This keeps them happy and safe. 

Time slips away even as we dither. During the core parenting years the kids must come first, or before we know it they'll be all grown up with traits we might not like in them. As parents we sometimes notice the passage of time by the way our kids have grown, or by the way their pants have shortened! Just as we notice the physical changes in our kids, we must be observant enough about their character growth too. Parenting not only about providing, it's a lot about nurturing both the body and the soul. Next New Year, let's look back in time at a job well done. 

Great Game Ideas for This Thanksgiving

It's that time of the year when lists are drawn up - for guests, for grocery to be purchased and for listing out ideas to keep the guests busy! A time for friends and family to gather at the end of the year does translate to a lot of hard work, but it can be pepped up with some fun, music and games. The food of course is the pièce de résistance, the preparation of which takes many hours. Some of the guests might help, but there will definitely be a need for some games(not the ones on TV!) especially as children will be around. 

The 87th Annual Macy's Thanksgiving Parade by Anthony Quintano

Here are a few ideas for games which can be used as fillers while the turkey cooks:

1. Who's the 'Best' from The Idea Room is a game where people of all ages can pitch in. People can be divided into teams to see who's the best at something silly like who can crab walk fastest or who can stand on one leg for the longest time!

2. Doing the turkey waddle is a good competition for a group which is predominantly young. Party Game Ideas suggests getting an inflated turkey to be held between the legs while waddling . If you can't get an inflatable turkey, try using a pillow or a pillowcase stuffed with soft things.

3. Card Games from Delia Creates are an all time favorite, be it Uno or fun games using a regular deck. As the number of players increase more packs can be added in.

4. An activity card like the one from alpha mom could be handed out to all at home just to have fun. Once done, it would be nice to see who gets and see how many get it all correct. Every person who gets it all correct, gets a gift. It could be a fruit or chocolate bar if you wish to keep it simple.

Well, enjoy your Thanksgiving!

3 great sites for science experiments

Teaching science can be extremely rewarding. When science worksheets get uninteresting, teaching science can happen via experiments. Kids love doing things on their own (with a little supervision and help of course). Learning science this way is the most rewarding for it makes the science real, enjoyable and stays in the mind of the child.

Mad science Invitation 4 by Martin Cron

3 great websites for science experiments -

1. Science Buddies
This site has experiments for kids of all ages. Some of the science fair projects are really good teaching kids to take accurate measurements and going  through data understanding and coming to conclusions. To get some ideas for science fair projects, a short questionnaire checks the child's interests. From popping corn to more complex experiments, this site covers science experiments involving food, biology, chemistry and other fields.

2. School of Dragons
This site teaches science via games and experiments, with characters from the How to Train Your Dragon series. There are some experiments in the lab and many others are quests which use science to solve problems in the Viking world. Most of the curriculum taught is in sync with NGSS standards. There's fiery lava, frozen Arctic islands, flying dragons, prosthetics for man and dragon, growing food, weather and a whole bunch of problems from everyday life. The botanist teaches about plants and biology, Heather helps with lab experiments, while Fishlegs and Hiccup list dragons and their behavior. Watch some of the Youtube videos to know more. Best of all the site lets you hatch a dragon egg and fly it!

3. Science Bob
This guy is fun and this website is a mine of science experiments. Kids and adults love watching these science experiments on TV. Science Bob is a teacher, maker and a TV presenter. Some of his experiments require adult supervision. Many of his experiments have videos we could watch and enjoy. Even visitors to the site can contribute experiments.

Many experiments can be started fairly early in the life of a child. It need not be called an experiment, it could just be a fun activity and it's really good to use ordinary stuff lying around. Science activities must take a child beyond just 'doing' the experiment. It should enthuse a child to try other experiments, get involved with problem-solving, hypothesize, test and try new experiments in spite of failures. Starting from the simple but elegant experiment of floating eggs, to other more complex experiments. Science experiments can be very rewarding. Have fun!

A Game of Filling Pockets

Kids like to wear clothes with pockets. They like keeping little things to play with or eat. Occasionally they are forgotten and then the clothes come out from the wash with muck in their pockets!

Memory Game by Dan Zen

Here's a good way to turn this into a game. This can be played indoors or outdoors and the number of kids can vary from 2-4. Make sure the kids are wearing clothes with the same number of pockets and more or less of the same depth.

Gather small and safe objects. Divide them into as many piles as the number of children playing. Make sure they will all fit into the players' pockets. Draw the start and end lines. Between them draw paths for the players. Now distribute the objects on these paths in a uniform fashion.

Start the race. The kids are required to pick up objects in their path and stuff it into their pockets as they move forward. The kid which pockets all objects and reaches the end line first is the winner.

This game can be played a number of times. To make it more interesting, a parent can be involved in the race. The child can pick and put it into the parent's pockets. Kids enjoy a variety of activities, and such games are always a source of fun. Trust me - this game is simple and enjoyable. Play and enjoy!

3 Tips to Keep Your Kids Safe

One of the primary responsibilities for parents is to ensure that a child has a safe and secure environment to grow up in. In caveman times parents perhaps had to keep the kids from being eaten up or being squashed under the feet of migrating animals. Yes, my imagination is on the wild side today, but it is a fact. What parents have to keep their kids safe from today is very different. We live in an urban area and our kids spend a lot of time indoors. The little time they spend outside, is under the care of teachers, babysitters or perhaps an older sibling or a family member.

Leo and GCompris again by Jaro Larnos

Whatever the fears, its the onus of the parents to prepare their kids to be safe. We need to help our kids understand what to look out for and how to keep safe. Here are three things kids must be cautioned about:

1. Playing with Electricity and Appliances
Our homes run on electricity. Shut down electricity and everything comes to a standstill. Almost. In spite of baby-proofing homes when the kids are young, we forget that tweens can get into trouble too. We do not caution our kids enough. Many a time, kids might try things without adult supervision, which might be very unsafe. There have been many mishaps with kids trying to use the food processor, just to give an example. So it's better to teach kids to handle these things safely rather than stop them from doing so, only to have them go ahead and experiment without knowing how to.

2. Being safe online
Kids might take an eggciting break from virtual pet games, but they do love spending time online. School work sometimes requires kids spending time on the Internet. Other than installing software to protect children or using Commonsense Media to decide suitability of shows and games, it's good for parents to talk to their children about the very real problems of spending time online and sharing information with strangers. It's also a good time to explain to them that long hours on the Net might not be the best thing for them(this is harder than it sounds!).

3. Being watchful when outside 
From a young age a child must know where to find a parent and the parents must be there as promised. If it's a park and your child is playing with other young children in the sandpit, it's okay to walk around the play area from where you can keep an eye on your child. At the same time it's very important to tell the child how she can find you, by walking in the opposite direction, so you can run into her. When and if she comes, you must be exactly there so that there is complete trust built into the relationship from childhood. As kids grow, ask them to be careful about walking home after dark or running across streets carelessly even in the suburbs.

Habits built in childhood last a lifetime. Let's help build them into the lives of our kids. It will serve them well as they grow and take decision on their own. They may crib and complain, but then humor can and should be used effectively to counter them. Sometimes i just say - I'm the parent and hence the Boss! You should try it.